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Leftover To Do
May. 29th, 2007 03:23 pmWrite cards to:
- Grandmother
- Old boss
- Friend in france
- D.F.D.
Museum
Goodwill
Return Shoes
Finish Bunny
- Grandmother
- Old boss
- Friend in france
- D.F.D.
Museum
Goodwill
Return Shoes
Finish Bunny
May. 29th, 2007
Annoyingness.
May. 29th, 2007 07:27 pmOK, I have done foolish things in my life. For instance, I have, in my life, foolishly become friendly with a few people who, for one reason or another, have turned out to be people I really never want to talk to again.
This is easily enough accomplished in most respects: cease to return emails or phone calls, and most folks get the idea. However, Instant Messenger is a problematic exception -- it's a lot harder to ignore (and not respond to) IMs from unwelcome parties than it is to ignore emails and phone calls. And, probably not coincidentally, the type of people about whom I am likely to develop a strong antipathy are also the type of people who are likely to IM you after years of silence with plaintive or sometimes downright hostile questions about why you haven't been in touch.
This has not happened very frequently, but there are some notable instances. OK, two instances. In both (unrelated) cases, long after I stopped responding to phone messages and emails, both of these guys persisted in initiating uncomfortable and passive-agressive conversations on IM, no matter how unforthcoming or downright unfriendly I was. It got so I was reluctant to sign on, because I didn't want to have to excuse my way out of a conversation with them.
So I blocked them. There are now two people blocked from seeing and communicating with my IM account.
And here's the kicker: both of these guys had had a single IM username for all the time I knew them until the point where I decided to block them. Now, over the intervening months, both of them have (independently of each other) signed onto IM under new/different names, and initiated awkward and passive-agressive conversations with me USING THEIR NEW, UNBLOCKED ACCOUNTS. One made sure to drop many hints that he had figured out that I had blocked his original account; the other was a bit more subtle about it. In both cases, I ended the conversation as quickly as possible and then blocked their new accounts, too.
So I ask you: if you realize that a former friend -- or even someone you still consider a friendly acquaintance -- has blocked your IM account, what do you do? Do you quietly rail and gnash your teeth and call it a bad job? Or do you create a new account, confirm that your old one has been blocked, and initiate a non-confrontational but still plenty uncomfortable conversation with the blocker?
Question two: am I just asking for this kind of complication by blocking people in the first place? Should I just steel myself and learn to ignore certain people on IM as well as email and telephone?
This is easily enough accomplished in most respects: cease to return emails or phone calls, and most folks get the idea. However, Instant Messenger is a problematic exception -- it's a lot harder to ignore (and not respond to) IMs from unwelcome parties than it is to ignore emails and phone calls. And, probably not coincidentally, the type of people about whom I am likely to develop a strong antipathy are also the type of people who are likely to IM you after years of silence with plaintive or sometimes downright hostile questions about why you haven't been in touch.
This has not happened very frequently, but there are some notable instances. OK, two instances. In both (unrelated) cases, long after I stopped responding to phone messages and emails, both of these guys persisted in initiating uncomfortable and passive-agressive conversations on IM, no matter how unforthcoming or downright unfriendly I was. It got so I was reluctant to sign on, because I didn't want to have to excuse my way out of a conversation with them.
So I blocked them. There are now two people blocked from seeing and communicating with my IM account.
And here's the kicker: both of these guys had had a single IM username for all the time I knew them until the point where I decided to block them. Now, over the intervening months, both of them have (independently of each other) signed onto IM under new/different names, and initiated awkward and passive-agressive conversations with me USING THEIR NEW, UNBLOCKED ACCOUNTS. One made sure to drop many hints that he had figured out that I had blocked his original account; the other was a bit more subtle about it. In both cases, I ended the conversation as quickly as possible and then blocked their new accounts, too.
So I ask you: if you realize that a former friend -- or even someone you still consider a friendly acquaintance -- has blocked your IM account, what do you do? Do you quietly rail and gnash your teeth and call it a bad job? Or do you create a new account, confirm that your old one has been blocked, and initiate a non-confrontational but still plenty uncomfortable conversation with the blocker?
Question two: am I just asking for this kind of complication by blocking people in the first place? Should I just steel myself and learn to ignore certain people on IM as well as email and telephone?
Eating on the run, so to speak
May. 29th, 2007 09:16 pmThose of you who jog/run:
If you eat after running (say, ~45 minutes after), does it upset your stomach? I'm sitting here trying to figure out if I've wronged myself by eating leftovers that sat out all day or if it's just 'cause I ran for 30 mins (go me!) before eating.
Thoughts?
If you eat after running (say, ~45 minutes after), does it upset your stomach? I'm sitting here trying to figure out if I've wronged myself by eating leftovers that sat out all day or if it's just 'cause I ran for 30 mins (go me!) before eating.
Thoughts?